What do you do when Mother's Day is triggering and confusing

May 08, 2019

Despite the beautiful love hearts hanging in every shop, Mother’s Day is a very triggering and difficult day for some of us.

People ask you to be appreciative of and say thank you to your mother... I’m all for showing appreciation and gratitude, but this is wrong and can be hugely...

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Beating up on yourself seems impossible to stop

Apr 22, 2019

 

When beating up on yourself seems impossible to stop... 

 

So often I'm asked:

  • how did you stop beating up on yourself?
  • how did you stop feeling so hopeless all the time?

 

Here’s one of the strategies I used to *beat* beating up on myself

 

I'm a very visual...

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Why can't we end toxic relationships

Apr 05, 2019

People are often puzzled by this: How can you go through such an abusive childhood and then end up in adulthood being in abusive or toxic relationship (and friendships).

How come we can't just say: “hey, stop that's not OK for you to treat me like that!”

 

Let's explore that a...

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Toxic shame after trauma and abuse

Mar 23, 2019

Do you get intense waves of toxic shame or do you feel like you're always ashamed of yourself?

First, we need to be crystal clear on where all that TOXIC SHAME came from:

  • we were not born that way
  • we were made to feel that way by other people’s actions & in-actions, their...
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What to do when you get angry with yourself

Mar 20, 2019

Do you ever get extremely angry or furious with yourself?

Like even over little things that would they have happened to someone else you'd ignore it or even say some uplifting or encouraging words? But you just can't seem to be able to do this for yourself. It just feels so different or wrong....

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Feeling unwanted and unlovable

Feb 22, 2019

If you had a lot of interpersonal trauma, abuse and neglect in your life, then you most likely grown up feeling unwanted & unlovable.

Bowlby (psychologist, psychiatrist and psychoanalyst) has written about this decades ago: 

  • Children who have nurturing caregivers, who make their child...
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Self harm and complex PTSD

Feb 13, 2019

There are a few myths about self-harm and this fear that if we talk about self-harm that this might be too triggering for people. No one should struggle with this in secrecy or alone. So, let’s talk about this. 

What this blog covers:

  • what self-harm is not and
  • then give you 3 real...
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Grieving process with complex PTSD

Jan 22, 2019

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in this grieving phase on your healing journey with complex PTSD?

That intense sadness and heavy pain… if you’ve got complex PTSD, not only are your PTSD symptoms complex, but also the grieving process is complex.

People may have suggested to you...

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How accurate are my trauma memories?

Dec 03, 2018

Let’s talk about memories, because that can be controversial and is a struggle for many trauma survivors.

.... I don't know but you, but it just really hurts me when someone questions the validity of my memories or the accuracy of my memories from past traumatic trauma events.

On top of...

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I've no purpose - complex PTSD

Nov 25, 2018

Have you too questioned your purpose and the purpose of life? Did or do things feel meaningless & pointless to you?

Is this a present struggle or one that you overcame?

I felt like there was just no point in living for so long. I felt so alien and so different to everyone else, that I truly...

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